How to Help a Friend When They’re Grieving

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If you have a friend or loved one who is grieving a loss it’s natural to want to help. But if you’re like most people you may be unsure where to begin. With this in mind, today we talk about grief and provide a few ways to help a friend through grief.

We all need help in life. And one of the most important times is when suffering a loss and/or are grieving. Moving through grief is a difficult time for most people. And though almost all of us will experience some form of grief or loss in life, few of us have any inkling of how to cope.

This is in part by what seems to be about our societies taboo around grief, as well as the discomfort and upheaval causes. Additionally, grief opens us up to our vulnerability and our own mortality.

And since loss does not come with a handbook remember we can all do with a little help and a few tips on to handle grief. So while you read this simple guide it’s important to be kind to yourself as you navigate how to help a friend through grief.

In this overview you’ll learn what to look for, as well as what to say and not say as a means to provide support.

What is Grief, a Brief Overview

Grief is a complex and universal emotion that people experience when they lose someone or some they love. And unlike what some people may think, is grief is not a simple nor linear process. It may be quite the opposite, as many grivers explain it as a roller coaster of emotions. And it has a unique experience for each person.

It can cause deep sorrow, pain, confusion, yearning, and anxiety about now and the future. And unlike what many people think is that 12. Grief is not a linear process, but rather a dynamic and individual journey that varies depending on the person and the nature of the loss2.

Grief can be very painful and overwhelming, but it is also a natural and healthy response to loss. It allows people to acknowledge their feelings, honor their loved ones, and eventually find meaning and healing2. Grief does not have a fixed timeline or a right or wrong way to cope. Some people may grieve for weeks or months, while others may grieve for years or decades

There are many ways to help someone who is grieving, but the most important thing is to be present and supportive.

Below is some tips on how to help someone who is grieving:

How to Help a Friend Through Grief

1. Listen with Compassion

One of the best ways to help a friend who is grieving is to let them talk. Let them express their feelings without judging, interrupting, or offering advice. Simply validate their emotions and show empathy. A kind ear is a gift for someone while they are grieving.

2. Offer Practical Help

Sometimes a grieving person has no idea what they need in this moment. So ask a grieving friend what they need. Make sure they have your contact information on hand and encourage them to reach out. Offer specific assistance, such as a ride to an appointment, bring them food, run errands, or help with household chores. Often people in grief will not ask

3. Check in With Your Friend Regularly

Don’t wait for them to reach out to you. Call, text, or visit them often and let them know you care and you are there for them. When people grieve they may not reach out for help. Many suffer quietly as there is a stigma in asking for help. And since it is so uncomfortable for many people it’s natural to want to avoid it. But having someone to lean on in tough times can help them cope a little easier when they have a reassuring friend.

4. Celebrate Their Loved One

Share memories, stories, photos, or videos of their loved one. Send cards or flowers on special occasions, such as birthdays or anniversaries.

5. Encourage Self-care

Remind them to take care of themselves physically and emotionally. Suggest activities that can help them relax, such as meditation, yoga, or massage. Invite them to join you for a walk, a movie, or a meal.

6. Respect Their Choices

Don’t pressure them to do things they are not ready for, such as getting rid of their loved one’s belongings or moving on with their life. It is important to let them grieve at their own pace and in their own way as they navigate their grief.

7. Encourage Then to Seek Professional Help (if needed)

If you notice signs of complicated grief, such as severe depression, suicidal thoughts, substance abuse, or prolonged inability to function, encourage them to seek counseling or therapy from a mental health professional.

How Long Does Grief Last

Some people may grieve for weeks or months, while others may grieve for years or decades. There are many ways to help someone who is grieving, but the most important thing is to be present and supportive.

Grief does not have a fixed timeline or a right or wrong way to cope.

Concluding How to Help a Friend Through Grief

I hope this information helps you understand grief better and how to help someone who is grieving.

Though grief is a universal emotion there is no a one size fits all process. Each person will grieve differently, depending on who they are and the circumstances of the loss. So it’s not uncommon for grievers to seem ‘okay’ one minute and falling apart the next.
Grief is a dynamic and individual journey that varies, and the response depends on the individual person and the nature of the loss. And though it may be very painful and overwhelming, it is also a natural and healthy response to loss. Grieving allows people to acknowledge their feelings, and honor their loved ones. And eventually they may find heal as they move through the steps on grief.

When Grief Is Complicated – Help for Complicated Grief

If you are helping a friend as they grieve and you notice they are not coping well it is important to seek professional help. Suggest talk with their Dr, get support from a trained grief counselor. This will help to rule out complicated grief or help them to get the support they need. Complex grief may be treated with psychotherapy, medication, or a combination of both. In addition Psychotherapy can help people with complicated grief process their emotions, cope with their loss, find meaning and purpose in life, and reconnect with others34.

Some types of psychotherapy that have been shown to be effective for complicated grief are cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), interpersonal psychotherapy (IPT), and complicated grief therapy (CGT)34. Medication can help reduce symptoms of depression or anxiety that may accompany complicated grief.

It’s important that no one suffer alone. There are resources and people who can help you when moving through grief and loss.